What qualifies me: to make a judgement on average penis size? As the Erection Coach I encourage my students to use their penis and encourage erections - so unlike your average Dr who mainly sees flaccid penises - I see them soft, semi, Hard and Throbbing. Quite a few I've seen too. So perhaps more than most I am qualified to make a judgement on penis size in all states and make a comment on pornography. Recently I've been contacted by younger and younger men experiencing erection problems due to porn. This can be due to sensitivity/addiction issues (which I write about in a separate post) or due to insecurities, which can go on to affect the psychological aspects of the erection process.
Porn is rarely the problem - it's how we interpret it. ErectionDr.com
You may know some of this already - but we all (me included) can get drawn in to the skewed porn world and we sometimes need to remind ourself of the realities as below. I'm using penis size as an example, but it works for just about every other insecurity too - such as body image and sexual performance.
Insecurities
Unless you're very sure in yourself – let's be honest - most of us can after watching porn feel a touch inadequate. Not just in size, but also such aspects as body shape - through to how far we shoot! So here are some things to keep in mind for greater sexual contentment.
One example – Penis size. In adult social media
Guys with a bigger than average penis, will tend to, want to show it off – if you've got it flaunt it! That's just the way it tends to be.
Reality Check1 There will inevitably be more pictures and videos of bigger penises - flaccid, erect, played with or us ed for penetration - posted in the first place.
Reality Check 2 Compounding this - the best, of these pictures and videos, get re-posted over and over. Whereas the guys with average size penises get less re posts (or retweets or whatever it may be).
The Effect upon us: This can lead to us coming away thinking every guy has a big penis – or at the very least distorts what is 'average penis size' or body shape or whatever else you happen to be tuned into. It also applies to sexual acts too - thinking that everyone else is having a wild sexual time either with themselves or others - we have to remember that what we're viewing is just one time - and the other 99% of the time they may be having a mundane sex life. Indeed some videos may be a once in a lifetime event for some - but one sure thing is that it may not be great for them all of the time - so remember that it is totally normal to have different masturbation times or sexual times. For example - on some occasions it may be:
- a quick play due to privacy issues or time constraints
- a meaningful experimental session
- perhaps with a little effort evolve into something deeply erotic
- a sensual relaxing mind/body experience
- simply because we feel a need to - either due to a build up of sexual feelings or as stress relief/sleep aid
This is because we're complex, with many emotions and physiological interactions at any given time - so we should not expect to have certain feelings or mind blowing self sex or any sex every time. Hopefully by knowing that others don't have this either - despite adult social media giving an impression to the contrary - this takes the pressure off you a bit? I hope so. However if you find you never have any exciting self sex/masturbation times - then generally that can be fixed - so get in touch! I can help with self sex, but I cannot help with sex with another because that involves relationships too - which is a whole other ball game!
The Possible Effect upon Erection Quality: This can lead to low level anxiety, I see it a lot during my role as Erection Coach (erectiondr.com), particularly with younger guys. However note I do say low level anxiety - so low - we are often unaware of it, it's just in the background. I do stress here just a possible effect - no one knows the true numbers, but just in case you are affected by it - it is worth keeping in mind the above and what I now have to say....
As The Erection Coach at ErectionDr.com (especially when PreCovid) I had my central London training room where I saw hundreds of penises - soft, hard and semi erect - purely from doing my job.
My observations: Average Penis size in real life - of all ages, nationalities and ethnicities - bears no resemblance to the average penis size represented in adult social media, This is due to Reality Check 1 & 2 above.
Why are things so different now? Being more mature, I remember a time when only professional pornography was available - but every one knew you had to have a big penis to make it as a porn-star. But now with social media allowing everyday people to post pornography, or simply naked pics and video, there is now a danger of thinking what we see is average - as these are everyday guys with their dicks out and the average we are viewing whether soft, hard or in a sex act will (for reasons 1 and 2 above) tend to be bigger - that's just the way it is. We must remember the average in adult social media world bears no resemblance to the real world.
I really hope this can help you. If you have anything you'd like to discuss feel free to contact me. Next Post will be:
Porn + Edging = Sex Media Addict Cured
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